I'm 15 and I don't know what to do.

Started : 28.11.2019 by Megan

Recently i've found out my mother has lung cancer more specifically Adenocarcinoma. I really don't know how to cope with it, i can't seem to focus in school. My grades are slipping. I really can't see me passing my GCSE's this year. Its not like i can just put it in a box somewhere and forget for the day, its impossible! i'm away from my mother and i'm constantly worried something is going to go wrong while i'm in school. please give me some tips to distract myself, I already draw, play games and listen to music but none of it helps, I hate this. I would do absolutely anything to take her pain away, I just want it to go back to how it was before we knew. cancer has ruined my family.

3 Comments so far...

1 - f.p 28/7/2020 @ 21:59

You will get through this. You will find the happy again. When my mum was diagnosed I was 14. I started running as a coping mechanism and can now run 10 miles. Stay strong. xxxxx

2 - 3/12/2020 @ 19:44

in 2017 i found out my mum had breast cancer. My life has never been the same since. im 15 now and hate talking to people about my problems. to be honest i dont talk about them because i feel like its reminding me more about the situation. recently im finding it very difficult to keep up with work and my grades are really going down hill. this is my first time on a website like this i just wanted to see what it was like. i hate myself for it but sometimes im jealous of other peoples lives and wish i had what they had. the constant reminder of my mum not being with me for much longer and no one really understanding. i saw your comment and just wanted you to know that i understand how you feel, our situations are somewhat similar and you can reply if u need to ask me anything. sometimes i find it easier helping other people then talking about myself. my mum is stage four now and i havent found my way of coping yet :( someetimes i wish someone who understood could just sit with me and not talk about it. maybe thats just me? ps. sorry if this is not correct or not spelt right, im dyslexic xx

3 - Erin 9/1/2021 @ 12:52

put one foot in front of the other and keep going; although it's a taboo word, cancer doesn't always mean as bad as you're thinking - there is hope. my dad was also diagnosed with lung cancer a few days ago and i talked to my college about it and they've been really helpful in reducing my homework etc so i recommend you talk to your school too. and the two things i'm finding most helpful for distraction are reading and watching TV series. keep trying to find a distraction and you will find one. and spend as much time with your mum as you can; i find that although it's so upsetting, spending time with my dad still makes me happy and i want to cling onto him as much as i can. you'll get through this and come out the other side as so much more resilient xxxxxxx