My mum and her breast cancer: incurable and inoperable

Started : 20.12.2019 by Ell

My Mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in October. She had a small stage one tumour when I was 6 and now almost ten years they found that it had spread and they didn't find it at the time. It has spread all over her chest, her CT and PET scan looked like she had been shot thousands of times with a machine gun. It is inoperable and incurable. I have been really struggling with the idea that its never going to go away and the treatment she is on, is never going to end. I also have my own struggles I now feel like I cant deal with. On top of all this my dad left in march. And until now the atmosphere was extremely hostile, but all of a sudden since the diagnosis he has been around again and it isn't helping anyone especially not my mum. I feel really helpless and that no one gets it. But I am strong for her. I need to be.

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1 - liv 6/1/2020 @ 19:32

Hey, my mum has a similar situation. I also really struggled with the idea of her dying and I even seen a counselor for a few months. My own struggles really added to my stress and it effects me a lot, some days it all weighs me down and I cant even get out of bed. I know how helpless you because I feel the same and I sometimes feel as if her pain is my fault when I act out. Being with her and being good to her helps though. You are really strong and you will get through it, clique line that I always hear but it is true. And as for your dad, maybe you should talk to him about how you feel and try sort out any negativity, it could really make your life a bit easier. I dont know how your relationship is with him but maybe he would be more supportive if he knew how you felt.