Gman - aged 15

Going through a situation like this is tough, easily the toughest thing in life, but you will get through it easier by thinking to yourself, what would he/she want me to do.

My dad was diagnosed with Oesophageal Cancer in about March 2010. I was so shocked to hear that he had cancer. He had his operation and I thought everything was going to be grand.

In October 2011, a year and a few months after his operation I found out that the cancer had spread and was incurable. I cried for days, couldn't sleep, My mind was messed up. My dad was then moved into a hospital and later a hospice. While he was in there I visited him each and every day and even though he was asleep, I still spoke to him, and I could see his face move, and that's what u need to do if you are going through this situation, just keep talking to him/her, cause then they know your there.

On the 20th of December we managed to convince the hospice to let him come home and pass away there instead, in comfort and in peace. On the 23rd of December, he died. I didn't know what to do, what to think, but all I had to think of to get me through it was that he was safe now, with no more suffering. Every day I think about him, I pray that he is ok now and I talk to him to let him know that I'm still with him. Going through a situation like this is tough, easily the toughest thing in life, but you will get through it easier by thinking to yourself, what would he/she want me to do. My motivation is that I want to make my Dad proud, so that when I meet with him again, I'll have lots of stories to tell him.

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